Thursday, November 24, 2011

2 States by Chetan Bhagat


          I completed the book of Chetan Bhagat, 2 States. It was a very good book and the story has a lot of similarities with whats happening in my life as well. Hmm., Marriage is such an important event in any one's life. The struggle to have the girl's parents convinced and getting married to the girl you love is indeed a great task. I was impressed by the narration of the story and the way Krish had to struggle in getting two ends meet is really nice. Krish and Ananya in the story i feel are no different than me and my girl and what is happening in my life seem to have a surprising 80% match to the story in the book. However it was a nice experience to have read the story and to have gathered the courage to face whats ahead of me in the next 10 days.

            Coming to my story, the next 10 days i think are going to be very crucial for my marriage. I feel that this book has given me a moral boost to gather courage to meet and convince my girl's parents. I am writing this with mixed emotions not knowing what is going to happen on December 1. Yes! Thats the day, i am going to know what really is in the minds of my girl's parents and whether they approve our love or not.

            Its been almost a year and three months now after me and my girl informed about our love to our parents. However, the reaction from their parents was completely contraversial to the acceptance of my mom and dad. Her parents being Telugu Brahmins found hard to digest the fact that i am a non-brahmin, non-vegetarian and their daughter had decided to spend the rest of her life with a guy like me. Well, i was equally angry and frustrated on the thoughts of her parents. How can people still think of cast and creed when our hearts have already accepted each other? From then on it is a long struggle for both of us. I Moved to this city, cause she had come here. I still remember the day when i came to Bangalore. I had come here to meet her, be with her and make her mine. Yes of course to work as well.

    Her Parents had not approved her love and even till this day. They neither had rejected it as well. They had told that there were bad times ahead of her and the talks about our love and its approval had been postponed by her parents till the end of November. Its now the end of November. Its been a long wait. But it has given me enough time to setup my career and also to gather the courage for the big day. I am eagerly waiting for their reply. My girl is going to talk to her parents directly about our Love, wanting to know whether they approve it or not. I feel like a father waiting for her wife's first delivery. I am equally thrilled and excited. I truly want their parents to accept our love and then get married to her. However my instinct says that it is again going to be a struggle as their approval is very hard to come by.

      I now wonder what am i going to do if their parents don't accept? Am i gonna marry her through the marriage registration and take her away from her house? I now have started feeling that even though my parents have also approved our love, things might change based on the decision of her parents. Dad and mom would not want to proceed if her parents do not approve. My mind is now in a great fix and also i have slowly started realizing that this whole chain of events ahead have also impacted my work at office as well.

           Even though i don't believe in God, My mind does all the silly things of praying and seeking out to someone or something powerful enough to change the minds of her parents. Maybe this was the real need for humans to create an image, the so called 'GOD' so that people can leave all the worries to that entity and be calm and peaceful. But isn't it stupidity to wait for something to happen rather than making things happen our way. See.., this is how my state of mind now is... I just could not concentrate enough on anything. Just having my fingers crossed and pushing time until the big day. Waiting for December 1.. The day that will decide the course of my marriage..,

I hope everything goes smooth and i get married to my girl...!

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Beginning of the Journey


          Its astonishing how time takes us forward in life. We reach places., meet people and do things which we never thought we would be doing. Time is one of those complex creations of nature that no human being was able to conquer. Looking back to where i was and where life has taken me today is really astonishing. Writing my first blog post today, i feel completely lucky for the experiences i had in life till date and look forward to enjoying the journey of life while it takes me through the surprises that it has in store for me.

                I always wished i had enough time in life to write what my mind goes through and have a blog of my own where i can share to the world, my inner feelings and the emotions that i go through. But now i realize that i would never have enough time in life and have to make time for the things that makes me happy the most. Today i have the best things in the world i would say. A beautiful and loving girl who cares for me and makes sure i get the best in everything., A wonderful family that wishes all the good things in the world for me., An awesome job that keeps me engaged and makes me happy on what i do rather than just having the feeling of working for money., I feel so lucky to be where i am today. Though everything that i have today was achieved with  much sacrifice and the challenges that i had to go through to get all this is worth while. I did not have anything in my mind when i started writing this post. But now i feel that there is a lot more in my mind to share with the open world that wouldn't be possible without this blog as we would never be able to make time for all this in our busy work schedule in our day to day life.

              Being away from the family and working in this busy city of Bangalore, really does make me feel homesick. But i also say to myself that there is no victory or success without enough effort put in to it. I now firmly believe that your life is what you make out of it. Rather than waiting for things to happen our way, making things happen our way is more an art which i guess i have started to master. Not being in touch with friends is one thing that makes me feel i am lonely. But i know for sure that with all the social networking tools and advancements in internet technology that we have today, never keeps us away from our loved ones. Hope to write my heart out on this blog. Hope to take the readers through the journey of my life. Hope the journey of my life is worthwhile and make me happy looking back to the articles in this blog after a span of 10 or 15 years., Expecting the little surprises that my life has in store for me., Yet another day awaits for me that am sure has a lot for me to learn..!!